![]() ![]() ![]() Put your hand on your heart or throw your arms around yourself and think “self-compassion.” Sit quietly and consider all the hardships you’ve endured at times in your life, and think “self-compassion.” Think hard about extending the compassion you extend towards others, towards yourself.Steps 2 and 3 require active visualizations. Because we so often believe we don’t deserve good fortune, we think whatever good time we have we somehow gain by cheating. We’ve all learned to hate cheaters by four or five years old-and survivor guilt is like “cheater detection” turned inward. After all, we feel guilty even thinking we might be more fortunate than another. Recognizing survivor guilt is perhaps the hardest step because it’s often hidden. You will likely find the source of your survivor guilt. Take stock of your feelings of anxiety and/or depression, own them, allow them, and recognize when they started. ![]() So how can you stop yourself from trying to level the playing field, doing something self-destructive and guaranteed to lower your status, or in some way bringing yourself down to whoever it is you’re feeling so badly for? 3 Steps to Better Tolerate and Cope with Survivor Guilt ![]()
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